Reasonable minds can come to reasonable solutions. Don't waste precious time and valuable resources in contested litigation only to find yourself in potentially the same resolution you would have had you mediated. Too many times couples squander what could have been their children's college education funds fighting an emotionally fueled battle that only benefits the lawyers.

There is a time and a place for litigation with an experienced matrimonial attorney but you owe it to yourself and your children to explore the potential benefit of mediating your divorce before embarking on that costly path.

Reasons To Consider Divorce Mediation

It costs less.

Spouses share the cost of one mediator, which is commonly $1500-$5000 total. If each spouse were to retain separate attorneys to represent them in a divorce, each could expect to pay a retainer from $5000-$10,000 just to get started.

You have control.

The couple controls the speed in which decisions are made, the terms of the Settlement Agreement, and when the divorce will be filed. Divorce Mediation can separate the complex issues of each marriage with precision in contrast to the adversarial process in which attorneys set court dates and judges make decisions with very limited time and information.

Paperwork done for you.

Most people would not try to do their own dental work, they would leave that up to someone who understands the complexities of such work. In turn, many people may try to do their own divorces these days, but usually run into difficulty understanding the laws and the complex paperwork involved. A mediator who is an attorney can prepare and file all of the paperwork for parties representing themselves. Peter L Jameson PLLC

It's easier on the children.

A divorce can be traumatic enough for children. Divorce Mediation can greatly reduce the conflict between the parents, allowing the children to heal knowing that their parents are working together to make adult decisions and will not put them in the middle.

It's easier on you.

The way your marriage ends will significantly impact the way you approach your future relationships. Reasonable minds can come to reasonable solutions. When you use a mediator to help both of you communicate and make important decisions, it can be easier to move forward, rather than let past emotions fuel an expensive court battle.

You can still go to court.

You do not give up your right to go to court when you choose to use divorce mediation. You can stop at any time if you are not satisfied in mediation, retain counsel and allow a judge to decide your case.


All discussions, proposals and tentative agreements are confidential. This allows consideration for all possible solutions not previously considered and allows for the free flow of proposed solutions that work for each particular situation. Anything that has occurred in mediation stays in mediation.

You get legal information.

In divorce mediation with an attorney you will be provided with enough legal information to make your own decisions about what is fair. While an attorney acting in the role of mediator cannot advise either party, the attorney can share his or her general knowledge of how the court might address the issues in your case. Each spouse is also encouraged to consult with a separate attorney for legal advice, especially before signing the Marital Settlement Agreement.

Emotions can be managed.

Many people simply want to be heard and understood in the divorce process. However, on their own this can get out of control, as each person triggers anger and resentment in the other -- often unintentionally. A trained mediator can assist the parties in acknowledging feelings but not allowing feelings to control the decision-making process.

It preserves the positive.

In mediation, both parties are encouraged to recognize the positive in the other person and to find common ground for agreement. In court, each side must emphasize the negative about the other person in order to "win" against the other. Especially when there will be future contact between the parties, such as in parenting, whatever goodwill remains between the parties should be preserved and not destroyed.

To learn more about the mediation process or to discuss if mediation is right for you, contact the Law Office of Peter L. Jameson, PLLC, by calling 845-213-3364 or by email.